HM’s Food & Wine Magazine

For everyone, love making is an important part of the life time experience. For good or bad, decisions about sex are thought about and talked about a lot. You might find yourself in a variety of situations in your life, some positive and some negative. You might fall in love and have the perfect, safe, satisfying, sober physical relationship. Everyone wants it to be great, meaningful and intense.
Love making resulting in positive feelings, and free of distrust, disappointment, regret, physical, mental or emotional damage, is the only kind worth having. Your chances of achieving sex you can feel right about are finely tuned if you avoid letting alcohol be your guide. Until you find the right person and the right time, don’t let alcohol lead you into accepting anything less.
Everyone’s sexual situations may be different. Crowded parties, candlelight dinners are some of the events which generally lead to having sex under the influence of alcohol. Some partners you might have known for years, some for hours. But when it comes to sex under the influence of alcohol, the potential risks put everyone on common ground. Doesn’t it seem like alcohol makes things easier? After intoxication, it becomes easier to dance, easier to introduce yourself to people you don’t know, to talk, and to laugh. Shyness breaks down and magically everyone seems more available with a buzz on. The reason it becomes easier is that alcohol helps you to forget about the things that usually make you nervous. Alcohol frees you up by making everything seem OK, and it helps you get your nerve up.
Everyone knows that the best way to avoid these problems is having a relationship with a person where all the fears and hesitations have been dealt through sincere talk, understanding and mutual interest. However in some cases the notion of love making comes up in less than comfortable situations also. Such situation may arrive when you meet someone at the party, at a pub, a bar, at a friend’s place or wherever. And sometimes in such situations alcohol seems like a good way to getting things going because it provides a false feel of comfort.
The biggest problem with the use of too much alcohol as an alternate for real comfort is that you put yourself in risk physically, mentally and emotionally. When you drink to make things easier, things generally get more difficult, maybe not at the same moment, but often later on.
With alcohol in your system, the capacity to make smart decisions crash down. Your brain is sleeping, but your hormones are jumping. When you drink, you only think for the short-term. The fact is that even encounters which seem simple can have long-term effects. You probably don’t think all these things on the way to bed, unfortunately, but STDs and even other factors like self-esteem, reputation, societal boundaries and emotional stability will become very important when all is said and done.

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